Dear Ally June 2019

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Dear Ally,

Today I had to practice the art of ignoring ignorance and simply hanging up the phone. If you would have asked me to walk away from something I know I am right about 6 months ago, I would not have been able too. Especially when it comes to my blood relatives. Today, I simply hung up the phone and left them behind again.

My brother was sick for some times but got better within a few months. It turned out he did not have a stroke and they did not locate any cancer or MS. The gooey stuff they found on his brain is a medical mystery. It no longer exists so they cannot test anymore. From the moment he was released from the nursing home, he reverted back to the old brother I had come to know so well. The one who uses and abuses people and his relationships with them. He once again decided to use Grandma and Grandpa. Well, I can't say I feel bad for them because they have been enabling this behaviour his entire adult life, There daughter also pulled a number on them. Someone generous helped them pull ahead but they're still allowing them to do it.

So when I got the call today so my Mother could bitch about what's going on, I decided to simply end the call. I cannot deal with the drama andymore Ally and I refuse too. I said, "I'm sorry you're still enabling them to take advantage of you but I don't see how this involves me. Now, if you'll excuse me, I have to go, Goodbye." I hung up and left it at that.

I thought I would feel bad about hanging up on her like that, but I felt empowered. Like I had just taken back my life and energy they have sucked out of me for so long. I smiled and went back to cooking dinner. If you ask me, more people should simply hang up or walk away. It isn't our fault and we can only do so much. These people have never lifted a finger to help me. They made my life miserable. So I simply cannot spend anymore time worrying about them. Onward and upward, Ally.

I love you to the moon and back. Always and forever.

Love,

Mom